James the Ideal Self, Jay Park, and Fight Club

So after watching those testimonials of Destin’s Coaching work.  I’ve been really inspired again to really put time and energy into my visions of the Ideal Self.  My inner erotic rockstar, what does he look like? What is he wearing?  What accessories, jewelry? What would it feel like to be him? A vision only I could come up with.  And I don’t know if it’s due to the fact that I’ve been releasing a lot of my issues lately with Faster EFT(I really think it is), releasing the negative self image about self, those pictures I had in my mind that weren’t so ideal for me.  …I notice that the vision of the ideal self has now become tremendously more vivid, clear, and powerful.

I’ve been playing with different exercises on this… First I would envision him clearly and would try “stepping into him”, which means in my mind’s eye I embody him completely, and feel his feelings, think his thoughts and his beliefs about himself.  This was a very powerful exercise and left me feeling great afterwards.

Another exercise is the TV exercise.  I see my Ideal Self in an old fashioned TV.  There’s knobs to the right, for brightness and contrast.  I adjust the knob to increase the intensity of the ideal self, and as I do I begin to feel it in the body automatically.  And I leave the meditation feeling this increased, “amped” state of being.

Robert Smith does a similar thing with bad memories, or bad images.  He has the client adjust the knob to make the picture black and white.  This creates shifts in how you represent that picture, automatically diminishing the negative emotions and ultimately creating shifts in your inner self.

This is NLP work, which both Destin Gerek, Robert Smith, and Rhett Bise seem to work with.  It’s very fascinating to me, and I think I want to buy those NLP books that Robert recommends. (Monsters and Magical Sticks by Steven Heller and Mind Works by Anne Linden)

Several months ago when I envisioned my ideal self he gave me a name, it was Yuki, which means courage in Japanese.  Now this ideal self (the image has shifted) gave me a new name it was James. First I had resistance to accepting such a name…it was American…and the fact that it was a normal person’s name…although it doesn’t seem too common these days.  And I played with this in my mind.  I would go back to Yuki, and notice that the image of ideal self would be very vague, and “hard to see”, but when I would say “James” in my mind, the vision came bold and strong.  I went back and forth several times, and decided James felt really good. (I was also thinking maybe my unconscious was pulling out the resource of James being a solid, masculine, cool name because of James Bond???, and the name wasn’t all that random either, I always thought James was a cool name, and I remember thinking that in my past..)

Another thing I want to write about is that I’ve been using Faster EFT in conjunction with this process.  When I’m envisioning and I notice some resistance show up…I just tap it away on the spot, and the resistance leaves and the vision, the way I want it to look, becomes clear more easily.

Resistance is thoughts like “ooo that’s not me.” “I can’t do that” or not being able to “see” due to resistance against my body.

This ideal self is about pushing the edges…more and more. Another thing that’s been pushing my edge a little more is I stumbled on this video on youtube, and there was a guy on there that inspired me, It’s rare that I find a fellow sexyAsian, and we both come from the same back ground, which is South Korean decent. apparently he was a major bebop/singer celebrity in South Korea and now trying to make it in the states. His name is Jay Park, its the guy on the left.

I’m noticing subtle shifts in myself, the way I act around my roommates for example, which is a great place to notice different shifts. I’m thinking that my unconscious is being impacted in ways I’m not even aware of.

And sometimes I’m trying to act that way…and sometimes I’m worrying if I’m being that…and I got this firm voice inside me, the voice of the ideal self, that told me to just let go and let it happen.

Just last night me and the roommates were watching Fight Club, a movie I’ve seen many times before. But last night I had this moment like “wow, I feel syncronicity.”  I never realized Fight Club had this whole idea of creating the ideal self and slowly becoming it, more and more.

here’s some quotes.

Tyler Durden: Hey, you created me. I didn’t create some loser alter-ego to make myself feel better. Take some responsibility!


Narrator:This is crazy…

Tyler Durden: People do it everyday, they talk to themselves… they see themselves as they’d like to be, they don’t have the courage you have, to just run with it.


Tyler Durden: All the ways you wish you could be, that’s me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.

“…all the while you’re slowly becoming me.”

“have I been going to sleep earlier?….have I been Tyler longer?”


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